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Blonde, Bronzed & Confidential: Q & A “Hopeless Romantic”

Posted By Rebecca Eckler on April 12, 2011

Tagged: Blonde Bronzed & Confidential, relationship expertise

If you’re looking for to-the-point with a bit of flare advice, look no further.  Jen Kirsch, a relationship expert, columnist and blogger tells it like it is.  Her hit blog Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething has become the go-to site for twentysomethings in need of relationship advice.  With daily emails requesting she have a ‘Dear John’ type question and answer section, we selfishly snagged her to help you out with your dating dilemmas. Jen has a Bachelor of Journalism from Ryerson University.

Dear Jenny,

I’ve taken on a lover. His company I enjoy, dates we’ve gone on are whimsical, but I’m still waiting on that romance. You know the I-have-a-date-planned-for-us-but-you-won’t-know-what-it-is-until-we-get-there stuff.  The bouquet of flowers that he knew would make my day on a day I need it to be made. The little notes left lying around for me to find, and the little things to show he cares (other than the expected day-to-day stuff like his company or presence in my life).

I’m a romantic through and through and it’s these little things-o-love that I seek to keep me on my toes. I’ve been romancing him for some time now with little somethings, to which he always shows gratitude, yet he doesn’t/hasn’t picked up on doing it in return.

Is there any hope?


Hopeless Romantic

Dear Hopeless Romantic,

Chances are Mr. Lacking Romance has many other redeeming qualities, or you wouldn’t be with him or doing all the little things you do for him.  As we grow up, we often observe our parents and siblings’ way of being in relationships, and often imitate it in our own. Perhaps he just isn’t the romantic type. You need to decide if that is something you can overlook, or whether that is a key need in a relationship. You can tell him you’d love for him to grab a bottle of your favourite wine, or that you’d love for him to surprise you with a cheesy bouquet of (insert name of your favourite flowers here). He may feel like it’s not him, and at that point he can tell you, but you may just be surprised that – when given a little bit of direction or a verbal manual if you will – how willing and able he is to be that Casanova you so desire.



You can also follow Jen on Twitter @BlondeBronzed and Facebook.

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