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Q & A with Psychotherapist Tasha S. Eastman

Posted By Rebecca Eckler on May 20, 2011

Tagged: Psychotherapy Q&A, Tasha S. Eastman

Sometimes we all need professional help and guidance to make sense of our lives, especially our relationships.  Send any questions you have to info@tashaeastman.com and we’ll have Psychotherapist Tasha S. Eastman answer them!

Q: I have been in a relationship with a guy for about four years now.  I live with my parents and he lives with his mom (father deceased a couple of years ago).  I have always got along well with his mother however, since his father passed away I feel like she is his priority and that our relationship is being put on hold on many occasions.  I can only imagine how difficult it must be to lose a spouse but I am beginning to feel that he thinks that in many situations he is trying to compensate for the loss by always being there whenever she asks, which is frequently.  I have tried to discuss this with him and gently suggest that she needs to try and start moving on with her life and so do we.  He is not listening and I am afraid that if this continues my resentment will only build and the relationship with end. What do I do?

A: The first thing I will say is that it is wonderful to see how aware you are of your feelings and the feelings of others around you. Unfortunately that doesn’t always mean that the other people involved will understand what is happening to you and between all of you. It’s great that you have been able to tell your partner how you feel, however, not getting the response that you want from him sounds very frustrating. It may be a situation where things will get easier with time, in which case you have to consider if waiting through this period is something you are alright with. Another thing to consider, if you have not already, is that you might want to try to talk to him about how not feeling heard by him is frustrating for you. At the end of the day, only you can decide how much you are willing to put into the relationship to make it work and/or how important it is for you to have your feelings heard and understood by your partner.

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Tasha S. Eastman has always had a great interest in understanding how and why people experience things the way they do. Through her studies of Psychotherapy, she has learned ways to work through the difficulties associated with the way her clients experience and make sense of relationships, different events in life, or of life in general. She has a genuine desire to develop trusting relationships with her clients and help them feel better emotionally, mentally and physically.  For more information please e-mail info@tashaeastman.com and follow her on Twitter, @TashaEastmanTO

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