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The Ongoing Effects of The Honeymoon Phase: Friends Are Still Feeling Ditched written by Rebecca Eckler

Posted By Rebecca Eckler on June 30, 2011

Tagged: Rant, Rebecca Eckler

In April I wrote a post about ditching friends and that in the honeymoon phase of a relationship they should understand that the new happy couple is going to want to spend all their free time together. So it’s a couple months later, and my boyfriend’s friends are ALL over his (very cute) ass.

Why? Because of me. Yes, a number of his friends have recently called him out on “disappearing” on them because, well, because of his new girlfriend (moi!).

So despite my efforts to explain the honeymoon phase, they are still annoyed!

What can I say? SORRY! One of his friends even joked on FB asking my boyfriend if he’d ever see him again or has ‘that writer’ totally made him vanish of the face of the earth.

I thought that it was just a girl thing to get upset at your friends when they are in the Honeymoon phase of a new relationship. Turns out, men care too!

But, to be fair, between the two of us, we have three kids and it’s not so much about spending all his time with me or me spending all my time with him, it’s about spending all our SPARE time with each other.

Because that’s what happens when you have kids and a job AND a new relationship you’re trying to blossom. Friends often get put to the side.

Now, luckily, I’m a gal and am super aware of not ditching my friends when I date. I mean, of course I don’t see them as much, but I do make the effort to call them still all the time. My best friends  and I still talk to one another daily, even in the throes of a new and happy relationship.

I guess maybe men don’t talk for hours on the phone. Maybe that’s why some of his friends do feel that I’ve stolen him away. On the one hand, this kind of makes me feel pleased. HA! HE RATHER SPEND TIME WITH ME! On the other hand, well, there is no other hand. It’s life, when you’re older, have kids and are in a new relationship, you’re bound to have a hard time fitting your friends in.

I did feel badly for the one who had FB him asking my boyfriend “Golf soon?” (More truth that men don’t want to talk on the phone!) But he’s a grown up and he’s a good person so I’m sure he’ll be seeing his friends soon instead of spending all his free time with me.

Let me have him for a little longer, dear friends of my boyfriend. I’m quite enjoying myself.

Do you ditch your friends in a new relationship? If not, how do you balance a new relationship with your friends? Share!

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